WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU OWN IT? AN HONEST ACCOUNT!

Hey #TeamOwnIt!

Welcome to the first blog in my new series of #WellnessWednesdays.

So, this is going to be an open and honest account of why I haven’t been blogging. One of the reasons as to why I decided to blog for You Own It was to hold myself accountable to you. On the surface of it all, it looks as though most of us have our s**t together, but underneath all that, it can be a very different story! In essence, I’m just one of you and that’s important for me to get across….here it goes!

IT’S ALL BEEN A BIT OF A WHIRLWIND!

When I first launched You Own It, I also ventured into a couple of more businesses. Finding my ‘feet’ and seeing what I was passionate about whilst still trying to earn a living. On top of that I was trying to balance my Professional Doctorate in Health Psychology whilst trying to organise my life as a disabled adult!

I had a lot of plates spinning. Taking on advice by various people in my industry. Felt like I was winning on some days and epically failing on others.

I wanted You Own It and the other businesses to be perfect. I wanted to ensure that I was 100% dedicated to my doctorate whilst demonstrating to others that I knew what I was doing when in fact I had no idea at all!

From looking at the You Own It website, my last blog entry was October 2017. It’s now June 2018.

In striving for perfection, I was getting nothing done and spent most of the time ‘stuck in my own head.’

HINDSIGHT

‘Hindsight’ is a wonderful word, isn’t it? Actually, it is. I’d just turned 30, took on a leap of faith to start my own businesses, had no income and everybody on Facebook who was my age was either getting married, having babies or adopting some kind of fluffy creature! I wasn’t doing any of those things and felt like a bit of a loser!

And having practiced what I been preaching for all these years, it was ok that I felt like that. All this pressure was on to be ‘successful’ and to copy what the successful people were doing and I lost my identity and focus.

NOW

Not to worry though. Myself and You Own It are in a better place than ever before.

These past 8 months have made me realise how passionate I am around raising awareness for both physical and mind challenges – we all have these challenges yet there’s not one dedicated, fun, hub for us to talk openly about what we face.

You Own It is not a clinical site. Rather a safe and supportive site for us to begin sharing our own stories. To remove taboos and to make these discussions the norm.

THE FUTURE

Over the next few months, You Own It aims to grow. We are revamping the website to make it more inclusive….so stay tuned!

THINGS TO KEEP AN EYE ON & HOW TO STAY INVOLVED

  • Join our Health & Wellness Group on Facebook where we encourage open dialogue on our own wellness challenges.
  • Diarise #MondayMatters in your diary – my Facebook live every Monday. 7pm, UK time, where we’ll be discussing hot health and wellness issues!
  • Ambassadors, we need you – we are on the lookout to recruit new ambassadors to contribute to You Own It! To be an ambassador we ask that you contribute to the website at least once a month! It’s up to you how you contribute. It could be through blogging, vlogging, songwriting, art! Whatever takes your fancy. You can have a pseudonym if you’re not comfortable with revealing your identity. We just want YOU to OWN this website. YOU OWN IT!
  • Look out for my #WellnessWednesday blogs where I’ll be blogging about my own personal challenges.

FINAL NOTE

We all screw up from time to time. We feel down and miserable. But it’s important to remember how we can grow from these situations. Your vulnerability is your strength. It’s what others can relate to and it makes you, you!

Until next time,

R x

(p.s. you can join the Health and Wellness group here)

Have you got #FOMO? Here are 3 ways to break our addiction…The AAG Formula

Hi everybody! I hope you’re well!

So as it’s #Shocktober, I thought it’d be interesting to write my blog about fears! FOMO in fact – Fear of Missing Out!

FOMO is an interesting phenomenon and we can all experience it. Especially those who’ve grown up with the advancements in technology.

Everyday we are bombarded with texts, calls, Facebook messages. The minute our phone pings, we have to check it. See what that message that was or what that Facebook notification was!

And although the phrase ‘FOMO’ has originally stemmed from technology, it can actually be applied to a whole range of situations. For instance, that party that all your friends are going to, that course that sounds really good, that event or gig etc!

Research has described FOMO as …‘‘the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming feeling that you’re missing out – that your peers are doing, in the know about, or in possession of more or something better than you’’. 

And this is not a good thing. We check social media constantly! We feel like we’re being kept out of the loop. 

The sad reality is that research demonstrates that FOMO actually stems from unhappiness. And when we’re unhappy we tend to check things like Facebook to see how everybody else is doing. Research shows that we check our social media first thing when we wake up, during meal times and last thing before bed!

But isn’t this a symptom of modern life?  Hmm, rather an addiction! 

When we’re unhappy, we turn to social media and it actually makes us feel worse, but we are kept in a very negative cycle!

The thing is guys, often things like Facebook are an illusion. People cherry pick what they put on about their lives and everything seems perfect. But are they really happy? We know they probably aren’t but we still compare. And comparison can make us feel slightly depressed. Social comparison is extremely destructive to our wellbeing.

But when someone puts something up! Some of us will feel compelled to write awesome things too. And it feeds into this whole cycle! This cycle can bring you up and then put you right down again – it needs to stop! 

WE NEED TO CALM DOWN PEOPLE AND BREAK THIS CYCLE! 

So here’s my AAG formula for 3 ways to manage FOMO:

 1. ACCEPT: you’ll always miss out on something in life. But rather than focussing on scarcity, learn to love what you’re doing in the present moment. Really capture that experience for what it is and enjoy it.

2ATTENTION: Focusing on the outside won’t make you happy but focusing on the inside does. Cliche but true.  Here’s an extract from Nobel-Prize winner Daniel Kahneman. He explains the importance of attention in his book, Happiness by Design: Change What You Do, Not How You Think:

“Your happiness is determined by how you allocate your attention. What you attend to drives your behavior and it determines your happiness. Attention is the glue that holds your life together… The scarcity of attentional resources means that you must consider how you can make and facilitate better decisions about what to pay attention to and in what ways. If you are not as happy as you could be, then you must be misallocating your attention… So changing behavior and enhancing happiness is as much about withdrawing attention from the negative as it is about attending to the positive.”

So, limit your use of social media and be in a state of flow. This will increase your attention, make you more focussed and will help you to enjoy the present moment more. 

3. GRATITUDE: Our minds are programmed to focus on the negatives. However, gratitude is the antidote to this. In fact, gratitude is arguably the king of happiness. Research demonstrates that those who practice gratitude are less to be depressed, anxious, lonely, envious, or neurotic. It’s correlated with an objectively better life:

Social comparisons make you feel you have less. Contemplating what you are lucky to already possess makes you abundant.

SO TURN YOUR NOTIFICATIONS OFF! Put your phone down and get rid of your FOMO for good!

Until next time,

R

Welcome to #Shocktober! Get out of your comfort zone this month!

Hello and a huge welcome to October!! In honour of October and its association to Halloween, we’re honouring this and calling this month as #Shocktober!

This month we’ll be covering a range of issues to do with fear! Such as phobias and other fearful things. But we also want to make things fun so stay tuned for what we have in store.

So we all have fears. Some may be big, some may small. But today I want to challenge you to do something very minor which will hopefully raise your confidence.

Do you know that I used to be very shy! Yes, hard to believe. I even found talking to shop assistants difficult and speaking in the phone – I used to hate it! I suppose I had some sort of fear.

But I knew I had a lot to say and one day I just did it. I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and started speaking to shop assistants and making sure I spoke to people on the phone. And you know what? Things got better and better.

And by practicing this little thing over and over again, guess what happened? I ended up becoming a national representative for disabled students all over the UK! I finally got my voice heard.

So my challenge for you is to do one thing this week that scares you. It has to get you out of your comfort zone! You never know where it may lead.

Until next time,

R

The Text…

Hi there SUPERSTAR! I hope you’ve all had a great week!

Now, I’m sure most of you know my story but for those who don’t, I’ll give you an overview. I was born with Cerebral Palsy. It’s a neurological condition and it can affect people in different ways. In my case, it’s affected all four of my limbs. This means that I have weak muscle tone and use an electric wheelchair to mobilise.

The main impact I suppose in my life is the reliance of having to use Professional and Personal Assistants (PAs). I need my PAs on a day to day basis. They assist me with all personal tasks – washing, getting dressed, tidying, preparing food etc. They also assist with the professional side of my life too – admin, making calls etc. And notice that I’ve not used the word ‘carer.’ Some people aren’t bothered about semantics, but I am. My PAs don’t ‘care’ for me as I don’t need caring for. They assist me to live the life that I choose to live and with that, they require a lot of skill set.

I’ve been an employer since the age of 15. I’m now 30. I’ve had over 100 PAs during this time. I’m quite well known in the ‘disability world’ for speaking openly about the challenges that having a PA can bring.

Not everybody can be a PA. And those who require a PA will have very individual needs. And the dynamics are complex. Boundaries can get blurred. There’s constant role reversal, one minute you’re having to do an appraisal, the next you’re relying on them to help you go to the toilet! And when the relationship works, it’s the best thing. If it doesn’t, things can get sour.

You get your bog standard ‘how to be a good employer’ training (although that’s only been a recent thing). But there needs to be more than that. Often disabled individuals are put into the position of being an employer. They try to get their heads around the legality of it all, whilst balancing their day to day living. Being an employer can at times be hard work. It’s hard even when you have THE BEST PA team, due to the admin associated with it – rotas, timesheets, dealing with holiday and sickness etc. It’s an emotional rollercoaster and people need support with this rather than black and white protocol.

However, after 15 years, being an employer doesn’t stress me out as much as it used to. It’s been a long long journey but I’m finally getting there. I’m more confident in recruiting the right kind of people, I’m better at managing them as well as my own emotions.

In fact, I realised this the other day. As somebody who uses PAs, you dread ‘the text…’ This is the text to say somebody can’t come to work. It fills you with dread and panic. This isn’t just any job, I rely on PAs to get me out of bed in the morning. I got that text. Not on the day of the shift but a week before. And non of my other PAs, in my team, could cover!

Now a year ago this would have sent my mind racing. I would have started to think a lot about the future. How come my other PAs can’t cover? Is having my own team too unreliable? What about when I’m working more, I can’t have this happening? What about when I get married and have babies – who will help me because I won’t be able to help them!?

Seriously- I used to stress so much. But because I’ve worked on myself over the past year, I handled this so well. I took a ‘step back’ and put things in perspective.

My PA Team are actually really good. We get on quite well and we are very respectful of each other. We are all good friends, and I know this is controversial to some, because of boundaries, but I know it wouldn’t work as well for me if we weren’t. Because we are good friends, I know that they feel ‘terrible for having to let me down.’ So when they are absent or can’t work, it’s for a genuine reason. Sometimes everybody’s life can get in the way! So, I can’t ‘blame’ them as there’s nothing to blame them for. This situation is so rare it happens probably 1% of the time.

Secondly, I had 7 days to sort this out. So there were a few options before going into complete meltdown! After asking whether the other team members could cover, I text an old PA of mine – but she was away. Then I text another old PA, and she could assist in the morning! Boom! Happy days. It got sorted!

Truth be, I’ve never been stuck completely. Everything has always sorted itself out. There’s always that fear though and that’s normal. Our brains, genes and past experiences are the things that produce anxiety! And that’s ok. But I’ve learnt that managing my stress levels has to start from within. Yes – it boils down to practicing ‘self care’ again!

Somebody asked me yesterday – ‘are you happy?’ I replied, ‘Yes, the happiest I’ve ever been.’ They then asked, ‘do you worry that it’s just a blip and things will go back to where they were before?’ I replied, ‘I don’t believe it’s a blip, but what I do know is that I have to work on creating ‘happiness’ each and every day through ‘self care,’ the moment I stop, the moment I know things can get hard again.’

So if you’re a disabled employer, I hope this blog has helped. If you’re not an employer but feeling a lack of control, then I hope this blog has also helped.

Life can be s**t. It can be miserable and hard. But it’s also full of colour and happiness. Start from within and I guarantee you’ll start seeing the world differently.

Until next time,

R

How are you getting on with #SurfLessSept?

Hi everybody!

So I’ve broken the pattern of how I write my blogs this month. Normally I focus on the theme for the month, this month being #SurfLessSept!

So let me resume back to the normal way of doing things again. Just for this blog at least. I think there’s a lot of crossover with this months theme with #MindfulMay! You can recap here.

With our generation, we do spend a lot of time surfing on the Internet. We have our phones, tablets, computers… The list goes on. We have our social media apps, dating apps, emails, games! And to be fair, I know a lot of us find comfort in hiding behind a screen than facing the real world!

Am I scolding you!? Of course not, I’m probably one of the worst culprits of spending too much time on my many computery type things. However, I have to admit, since challenging myself in #MindfulMay I am surfing less and since surfing less, I’m actually a lot happier.

I’m definitely more productive, I enjoy my time off and I’m more present with friends and family. I’m more reflective too and I sleep better! All from using my devices less!

I’ve written about how cutting down on our devices is good for us in the past so I’m not going to repeat myself. However, I promise you, even if you cut down on your devices, even if it’s just for an hour a day, you’ll notice a world of difference!

I’d love to see how you’re cutting down and surfing less the September, so please keep us updated!

You are all SUPERSTARS!

Until next time,

R

Why I want new legs…

Happy Wednesday everybody! I hope you’ve had a great week since we last caught up and I hope you enjoyed last week’s blog on self care being ‘not so’ cliché!

So I’m sure you’ve been loving our blog posts from our ambassadors! They’re all AMAZING! However, there has been one ambassador in particular who has caught my attention recently and that’s Jarard!

Jarard has been writing about his journey using Rexbionics…and I’m fascinated by Jarard’s journey. You can read his story here.

I originally heard of ‘Rex’ back in 2010/11 when it was very new! It’s an exoskeleton machine that helps individuals with mobility impairments to walk.

When I mentioned using it to one of my friends at the time, I remember how negatively he responded. My friend is also disabled like me. I understand why he was concerned though. To him, it was because I used the exact same phrase as I used above – to be able to walk.

As disabled activists, we have fought hard to change society’s perceptions of disabled people. We actively talk and promote ‘The Social Model of Disability.’ This is the theory that society has a responsibility to remove barriers that disabled people face – both physical and attitudinal barriers. It’s once these barriers are removed so is disability. For example, what makes me disabled is when there’s steps to enter a building. It’s not my impairment itself. Negative attitudes also play a big part in this. For example, negative attitudes or a lack of willingness to adapt to somebody’s needs.

The traditional view of disability has been ‘The Medical Model of Disability’ and this is when the onus of fitting into society is placed on the individual with the impairment. It’s a very unhelpful view and this is where prejudices from other people come from.

So in short, I get why my friend was concerned. In me wanting to be ‘able to walk’ can be viewed as a Medical Model approach. It’s me fitting into society rather than society meeting my needs. And wanting to ‘fit in’ can cause all psychological distress because there’s that element of not accepting who you are.

I didn’t pursue Rex at the time. After researching into it, I realised that at the time, that it was more appropriate for people with Spinal Cord Injuries. However, after speaking with Jarard and doing recent research, I know Rexbionics have started to investigate how this could be used with people who have other impairments like mine.

So why do I want new legs? I don’t actually, but it was a catchy title! I like my legs. And I accept who I am. I actively empower others to accept who they are through my coaching business. And I challenge society’s perceptions on perceived capabilities.

But I am still keen to explore Rex. This is because I know that standing would have huge benefits for me. Even if it’s a little, being able to wait bare would help me sleep and reduce the stiffness in my legs. For me, it’ll be like the equivalent of working out at the gym, rather than being able to walk per se. I wouldn’t be substituting my chair for it, but I do think it’d help with a lot.

I know leisure facilities should do more and society in general to meet disabled people’s needs. However, I’m so excited about the possibilities of what Rex could bring.

If I’m being honest with you, it’s about artificial intelligence too. One thing I hate is to rely on others and rely on ‘accessible facilities’ for me to go to the toilet. I think being a disabled woman also brings its own challenges. I would love to use a device to help me be more independent myself and I know Rex can’t do this but it definitely shows hope for the way the future may go and I know this may be controversial but something that can offer more choice to people.

I’ll keep you tuned on my journey.

Until next time,

Rupy

(p.s. you can find out more about Rexbionics by clicking here)

Self care is so cliche…

Hi everybody,

I really hope you enjoyed my rap from the other week! So I wanted to continue my discussion on self care!

A while back I joined an online dating forum. If I’m honest with you, I hadn’t really taken much notice of the group due to being busy.

However, a week ago something popped up in my newsfeed, something that made me feel quite uncomfortable, something from that group. It was a lady saying something along the lines of:

‘I can’t get a date. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Maybe I should give up dating.’

My response:

‘It’s so important to feel comfortable in your own skin rather than needing another to ‘fulfil you.’ I bet you’re an awesome woman. He’ll come when the time is right, in the meantime, focus on yourself.’

Then ‘all hell’ broke lose and the admin commented:

‘Another cliche! Focussing on yourself rather than embracing may actually be part of the reason so many people are single.’

So that was it. We got into a heated discussion about self care which lasted gone midnight, until I decided to leave the group!

The lady that I replied to, actually thanked me saying that I really helped her. So at least that was a good outcome but I did make my views quite clear to the admin.

I told him that focussing on yourself is not cliche. Rather society makes you believe that you need somebody in order to be fulfilled. We don’t need a romantic partner to feel fulfilled.

Anyway, he didn’t like that comment and the discussion unnecessarily went on and on because I just think he liked winning an argument. Such a shame, when there’s so many singletons out there with confidence issues!

I’m not going to go into the rest of the discussion but I’m here to tell you, self care is the least cliche thing you can practice. It’s fundamental for you to grow and thrive as a person. We live in a world where we are programmed to focus on the negatives instead of the positives. This can lead to all sort of challenges.

Practicing self care takes courage and bravery and I bet there’s a lot of you out there who still think it’s cliche.

I ask you to be open and try it! It might transform your life, as it has done mine!

Until next time,

R

How the council damaged my sense of self worth much more than my parents ever did…

Hi everybody,

As the Founder of You Own It and a Lifestyle and Psychology Coach, I thought it was time to get vulnerable and share my story.

This story is not about fluffy ‘inspiration.’ It genuinely is about liberation and empowerment. It’s about how the council/my local authority, damaged my sense of self worth much more than my parents ever did.

I was born in Birmingham in 1987. My biological father left before I was born and my biological mother left me around the age of 4. I’m not going to go into the ins and outs because to be honest, it’s not relevant. However, I was blessed to be raised by the most two amazing individuals; my uncle and auntie and I’ll always be grateful to them.

Now as an almost qualified psychologist, one of the things that we’re quite obsessed about is childhood, and rightly so. Somebody’s childhood can affect an individual’s life forever, a miserable childhood can even affect the way somebody’s brain develops- we all have a collective responsibility to ensure  children and adults can thrive!

As psychologists, we mainly look at the family unit. A lot of learnt behaviour and self worth develops within this unit. What did I learn from my unit?

– to treat others with respect and love them
– to treat yourself with respect
– to challenge yourself, raise the bar, test your own capabilities

My family have always been my cheerleaders, and thank goodness!

The ironic thing though? We had various ‘professionals’ in and out of my childhood life. Especially social services, checking up on how we were doing, offering ‘advice’ and opinions, but no real support.

I remember my uncle turning around to a social worker who came unannounced one day saying, ‘Rupy is fine, we’re fine, now let us get on with the day.’

Rather than being presented with a  social worker, I now believe each disabled child should be given a psychologist to work with. Somebody who can teach them about self worth, confidence and never forgetting to love themselves – something that I perceived social services took away from me.

My perception? I don’t actually believe that social workers/managers in local authorities are bad people. They are put in a profession where there just isn’t the budget to meet everybody’s needs. And once you have been in that role for a number of years, I bet you can get numb to scenarios.

But do you see what I’ve done up in that paragraph. I’ve demonstrated understanding and empathy. Tried to see it from their side: something that they lacked with me and a whole other lot of disabled people I know. I understand that in their eyes we need to be ‘catered for’ in a ‘legal way’ to ensure the budget is spread out ‘equally and fairly’ as possible. But to them? It’s a job that they can turn off from at the end of the day. Once they’re home they can distance themselves away. But for us, it’s something that we live with. Once the budget and the hours have been set, we live within those parameters and live with the fear that if we use more budget, say, using it to go to the loo between the hours of 7-10pm, that we can be penalised. That’s the reality.

I wish the economy and the politics of this world were better. And that’s why we need to keep working together to ensure it gets better and better!

But all I ask to all ‘professionals’ is to remind yourself as to why you entered that profession in the first place. To help others. And if you know in your heart that meeting somebody’s needs is going to be difficult, then show empathy and don’t get defensive. Defensiveness damages self worth and confidence much more than you can imagine.

I could now list a whole bunch of scenarios where a lack of empathy damaged my self worth but I don’t think this blog could handle another 1000 words. However, here are some memorable things social workers/council workers have ever said to me:

Aged 11 (just started my period) – ‘we can’t provide you with support so it’s probably best you go on the pill.’

Aged 17 – ‘There’s nobody that we know of that’s managed to get into university who is also disabled. Yes, you’ve got the A’levels but why don’t you stay at home and do a learn direct course?’

Aged 21 ‘We can only fund 21 hours of support, if you want more, you’ll have to move into a nursing home.’

The list goes on, including a very flippant email that I received from a manager last week! Something which if I received a year back, would have caused me to have a meltdown.

Why haven’t I broke down? Good family, good friends and a lot of work on myself. Mainly, self care. Being compassionate to myself and loving myself. Something that Dr. Paul Gilbert has taught me through reading his work. Something that all professionals need to read if they are working with ‘vulnerable’ people.

Empathy and compassion cost nothing. Damaging somebody’s self worth can cost them their lives.

I’ve not written this blog to express my anger. Rather my concern. We have a duty of care to look after one another. We all have a CHOICE to do so. Whether you’re a professional or not. Choose your actions wisely, compassionately and empathetically.

Until next time,

R

Queen Of My Own Affairs

So I thought I’d portray the importance of self-care and ‘growing’ with a new kind of style!

Now, this is a story all about how
My life’s no longer flipped upside down
And I’d like to take a minute
To sit right there
I’ll tell you how I became the Queen of my own Affairs

In South Manchester not born but raised
No playground was where I spent most of my days
Not really chillin’ out maxin’ relaxin’ all cool
And all shootin some b-ball outside of the school
When a couple of ‘professionals’ who were up to no good
Started making trouble in my neighborhood
I got in one little fight and my sista got scared
She said ‘Now I’m teachin’ you the skills to become the Queen of your Affairs’

I begged and pleaded with her day after day
‘Can’t you just fight for me, just for today?’
But she said ‘Princesses just sit, whilst Queens mean business’
‘I’m not fighting your battles – You gotta OWN IT.’
She gave me a kiss and then she left me to it.
I put my Walkman on and said, ‘I might as well kick it’.

First bash, went bad
I began feelin’ sad and more sad
They defined my worth and I soaked it all in.
Is this what people are living like?
Hmmmmm this is not alright.

But wait I hear they’re prissy, bourgeois, all that
Is this the type of place that they just damage a cool cat?
I don’t think so
I’ll see when I get there
I hope they’re prepared for the Queen of her own Affairs

Well, I smashed through education
A mix between Psychology and Politics
I read books and through the bull s**t
Realised I was a diamond
Worthy of greatness
Practiced to self-love
Nobody messin’ with this Miss

I reaffirm my self-love day by day
And I wanna teach you to love yourself in every possible way
Compassion is rare but it’s there!
Now when people put me down
I say ‘Nah, forget it’ – ‘I’m the Queen of my own Affairs!’

I do still wobble now and again
But acceptance and forgiveness is key for healin’
Showin’ up for yourself is your greatest gift
And I yell ‘smell ya later’ to those who take the mick
I now look at my kingdom
And I’m finally there
To sit on my throne as the Queen of my own Affairs

 

Until next time,

R

So I’m not engaged, married, have a baby, or some kind of pet…but I’m ok with that

So I’m 30 next week! And you know what? I’m not engaged and therefore obviously not married. I don’t have a child and neither do I have a pet!

You see, I made a plan. Apart from getting a ‘pet’ – I’m not a huge fan of animals (shock, horror!). But my plan was:

  1. To fall in love a uni
  2. To be married by the age of 25
  3. To have my first child before the age of 30
  4. To be a manager in my line of work and be earning bucket loads!

But what actually happened? That plan was farcical!! Ha!

There have been many interests and thoughts of becoming married but it’s not happened. There’s certainly no child. And I’m not employed (thank goodness)!

If somebody told me this a few years ago, I would have been distraught! But after a year of self-care and ‘finding myself,’ I’m actually rather content!

My confidence has grown exceptionally in the past year and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. This time last year I was anxiously searching for â€™the one.’ But in searching for that and hitting a brick wall, I’ve actually found myself. Cheesy but true.

I’ve sat back and re-examined EVERYTHING! Like who I want to be and what kind of life I want to have.

I’ve been blessed to work with experts in my field who’ve taught me about the lifestyle that I crave for. Who’ve taught me to challenge my limited beliefs. And who’ve helped me discover my mission in life: to empower 1,000,000 people to realise that they can live the life that they truly desire! And this mission gets to the pit of my stomach every morning and I’m truly grateful for being alive!

In focussing on the needs of others, I’ve let go of things that once controlled my thinking.

The man, the babies and the possibility of having pets can wait for now. They’ll come when the time is right. But I’m at the start of a new adventure. The leader of my own destiny. It feels awesome.

I know a lot of you will be thinking ‘what is she on about?’. That’s fine. If I read this a year ago about somebody else, I would have rolled my eyes and taken the p**s!

But the purpose of this blog isn’t just to tell you about my wonderful breakthrough. But it’s to encourage you to look at your life and challenge your limiting beliefs if you’re not quite happy with where you are.

It’s not been an easy ride. It’s been raw and scary and I’ve been broke. But looking at who I am and what I stand for has reduced my anxieties about the future as I know I’ll be ok!

Get real with yourselves and Own It!

Until next time,

R