I’m Alice, 26 and currently a “stay at home mum”. I’m not sure why I feel like I need to include those pieces of information, maybe Alice, happy soul and Fleetwood Mack fan would sum me up better.
I am on a mini mission to improve my health and well being, both physically and mentally. Having a baby can really take it out of you. Like, seriously, no one really explains how much will change in the months after you bring this little person into the world. I mean yeah of course my body changed, I was fully prepared for that, but what I didn’t see coming was my crisis of self. That is to say I felt like I was losing touch with the person Alice was pre-baby. There was a long 6 months where I felt like I was drowning in pressure to be a good mum to this tiny being. I would sit and think over and over about how bad I was for not taking her to baby massage or sing a long groups (yes, seriously this becomes SO important). Dragging myself and her out of bed seemed hard enough without adding on getting fully dressed, bottles organised, changing bag packed…..the list goes on. Going out became a chore and it was one I thought I could do without. And then a switch went off in my mind.
This is MY child. I can “mum” however I feel is best for her.
The time came for me to start pulling back those pieces of Alice that I thought were gone forever. I woke up and put my make up on. I’m a massive lover of lipstick in fabulously bright shades, so I got them out of storage and into a lovely new make up box. For the first time in nearly a year I felt like me and it was brilliant. I smiled and got the tiny human dressed before we went out to meet my friend. The worry of packing everything and trying to get out the house for a certain time went away because, really, I was doing my best and I recognised that now. Rather than panicking that everyone would stare if she cried, i told myself, she’s a baby, this is what they do and if the strangers in the coffee shop don’t like it they can look away or leave. The fact was it was their problem not mine, and I know crying babies are not fun to be around, but I was doing my best.
This became my mantra, “I’m doing my best”. And you know what it was enough then to get my through. A few more months went by and I could feel my confidence coming back and it was more fiery than ever.
So now the time has come to really shove some walls down that I have built up over the last year. I am determined to do a small amount of exercise every day, to build my strength on the outside and give me some of the confidence I feel I lost over the last 18 months. As I’m glued to my phone I have downloaded an app that gives me a 7 minute workout everyday. No pressure to it, just will power and I can fit it around my little ones schedule. I’m hoping that by documenting my time with this through the blog I can keep that momentum up.
You lovely lot are welcome to join me and I’m sure there will be some highs and lows along the way! So I will leave you with the wise words of my fab dad,
Keep on rocking in the free world.
(p.s this is my very first attempt at a blog and fingers crossed it’ll get better! Bare with me!)
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